Tuesday, December 29, 2009

Can You Help?

I'm not sure how many adoptive family readers I have these days...

But...

I'll put it out there anyway. We are dealing with severe fear of dogs with Noah. Samuel is scared, too, but Noah goes into hysterics and becomes completely irrational around dogs.

Here in Vegas we are staying with friends until we can get into a place of our own. They have a dog. We are not having good times here.

I realize that lots of people have had experience with kids being fearful of dogs. This is extreme. If you've dealt with an extreme fear issue with an adoptive child, I'd really like to hear from you. If you're not comfortable posting a comment, please email me at julicason@yahoo.com.

Thanks.

3 comments:

Anonymous said...

How is Noah doing now? Is he any better?

Love,
Mom

Anonymous said...

We have dealt with other fears, but not dogs.

I can say that there is no magic solution. It just eventually goes away.

Does Samuel like the dog? Maybe if he sees Samuel loving on the dog he will be okay with it.

Heather said...

We have had this with one of our boys, Owen. He had (still, slightly) an EXTREME fear of dogs-- specifically it manifested with the dog next door (the dog of our neighbors). I never figured out any magic solution (although I wracked my brain about it). We just dealt with it over and over and over. He'd scream, shake, terrified, every time he even saw or heard that dog. He wouldn't play outside for a long stretch of weeks/months for fear of that dog. It was AWFUL. I totally can't even imagine trying to LIVE with a dog through that. I don't have any advice, other than to just hug him and reassure him every single time, and try to have patience (so much easier said than done, I know!), and hopefully-- like Owen-- it will gradually start to pass. At this point Owen is still not comfortable, but is not terrified either. I'll be thinking of you with this.
Also have been thinking of you with the earthquake...
lots of love,
Heather